r/AmIOverreacting • u/[deleted] • May 03 '24

AIO because my wife took our cats when moving

Soooo, my wife is moving because of us not working out anymore. A lot of abuse from her like, shit gets deep. I believe she is narcissistic but im not a psychologist so what do I know? When she was moving we discussed everything, we didnt get divorce yet. We still thought we might work things out but not anymore. We discussed the cats and agreed that they should stay with me since I have been taking care of them for years by my self, like she has done not one single chore for these cats. Im sure if she keeps them their litter box wont be cleaned for weeks at a time. She never takes care of them and they have medical issues right now and require special care. I am totally losing my mind, she just took them with her when moving taking her things out of the house. She said don't be at the house and leave and I left, she then proceeded to steal the fucking cats. They are like my kids I really need them for support right now too I am just crying like crazy can't believe this. She quite literally took them with lies when we agreed they should have stayed with me. Called the cops they said you guys need to get a document of separation and write the ownership on that document. Until then as we are married I cant pursue legal action at all because its not technically stealing apparently:D im loosing it yall tell me somethingg

update; I got my cats back but she wants to take them back next week, imma fight thos during divorce as im filing it for it during the weekday as lawyers dont work weekends

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u/ybroc79 May 03 '24

You fucked up...you never use a verbal agreement... always get it in writing. I would text her and say we both agreed the cats were staying with me. See if she is dumb enough to agree she did agree to it. Plus she is only doing it to piss you off so act like it isn't a big deal.

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u/[deleted] May 03 '24

she agreed over text, our text messages are full of that. but the cop told me over the phone as long as no seperation documents the cats are hers as well as mine and they sad we cant do anything until you guys get that document

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u/ybroc79 May 03 '24

Sounds like the cop didn't want to do his job. A text agreement is still an agreement. If I told someone that they could have a motorcycle over text and they took it... could I then report it stolen because I changed my mind?!? Fuck no. This is the same...animals are nothing more than another item owned. Can you imagine someone asking if they can have your dog by text and you say absolutely not...they then take the dog and the cops tell you there is nothing they can do?!? Lol fuck that.

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u/newnamesamebutt May 03 '24

If they are married they have joint ownership until separation papers are signed. You can say or text whatever you want, but the legal reality is that as a married partner she still owns those cats. He can't enforce anything.

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u/BoltActionRifleman May 03 '24

It is not a cops job to go get cats back from someone who is still married to the one asking for the cats back. They actually did their job by staying out of it until there is legal documentation of what they can actually do in such an instance.

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u/[deleted] May 03 '24

They dont mind going above and beyond a piece of paper if they suspect you might have broken a law. 🙄.

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u/[deleted] May 03 '24

I fucking hate the system trust me :D im the most anti culture mf u can meet a total hippie

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u/[deleted] May 03 '24

im gonna call them again :D

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u/[deleted] May 03 '24

Find a way to steal them back. Like the cops said they are yours also.n

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u/philadelphialawyer87 May 04 '24

I think this is bad advice.

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u/[deleted] May 04 '24

Well, for many people it is. For people that love their pets like a child not so much.

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u/philadelphialawyer87 May 04 '24

I am concerned about the consequences. Supposing it goes wrong? Supposing the police become involved? Supposing violence occurs? Supposing OP ends up being charged with a criminal offense? Supposing the cats are injurred in the attempt?

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u/[deleted] May 04 '24

And if your aunt had a penis she would be your uncle. All those things can happen just walking down the road. I'm just saying I would be leaving that home with my cats.

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u/[deleted] May 03 '24

I feel the same trust me, I dont know the adress at all

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u/[deleted] May 03 '24

Look up her name. If she did and address change it should be easy to find use a reverse look up with her phone number. It will list all her old addresses and you will see the new one after your address.

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u/[deleted] May 03 '24

fuck i love you

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u/[deleted] May 03 '24

Lol I just want you to get you cats back. My cat is just like one of my kids. I'm thinking what I would do. Just be careful. Look for cameras buy walking up with a new hat and mask sunglasses park up the street walk buy and check out the place and see what the schedule is with people being home or not. Then on the day you are picking you cats up for "visitation"' park at grocery store.then knock on the door.with a grocery bag in your hands. Then you know the rest. 😜 Good luck.

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u/[deleted] May 03 '24

yea my cars are my kids and im just realizing the way current culture views animals is fucked up like really fucked up

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u/AspectNo7942 May 03 '24

They cant and wont be take the cats from her. You would need to go to court with that written agreement

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u/[deleted] May 03 '24

yea, thats what they said to me as well. Learning how the laws work last second :D

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u/OwslyOwl May 03 '24

Call an attorney to discuss your rights. If you don't make enough to pay for a consult, you can try www.freelegalanswers.org.

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u/philadelphialawyer87 May 04 '24

This is what I was looking for. Forget the cops. They are not going to get involved in this kind of thing. But a lawyer might be able to get this in front of the court, pronto.

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u/[deleted] May 03 '24

thank you, iv been trying free consultations through email and stuff but I think im gonna pay and talk to a law firm I have experience with in the past see what they can do